When I bring up the FACT that black women were also terrified of making the leap to love across color lines, historical context and justifications are given.
Shy people tend to stay out of the possibility of even being the center of attention.
Interacting with shy people can go wrong if you act too quickly because not all of the time are they used to close proximity or others talking to them.
Many times people who are shy have little or no eye contact with others.
You may see a man, man woman or child try to avoid eye contact with others while out walking around in public or even private.
You will want to watch the body language of a shy man or women as you approach them as you will literally see them start to get uncomfortable when you have entered into their private space and that space may be larger than for someone who is very outgoing.
Have you seen an increase in intercultural marriages between Russian brides and foreign men?Anyone who brings up The Lovings as an example of a man who risked everything for the love of his wife is using the exception that proves the rule. Not even to stick around and help raise HIS damned children. Black women demand more of white men as some form of COMPENSATION for his not being black. We demand more from white men as some form of PENANCE for the him not being our ideal BLACK man. I think black women are bringing our POOR VETTING SKILLS over to nonblk men and dont even know it. Any black women who is expecting random white men to APOLOGIZE for the oppression of the black male – oppression (which she secretly believes that individual white man is responsible for) that has DENIED her access to the type of BLACK man she wants – by expecting said random white men to make it up to her by being Hercules, Brad Pitt and Bill Gates all in one, needs to have a serious discussion about what they TRULY feel about non-blk men. Im amazed at how black women feel the need to make white men apologize for racism, but feel NO IMPERATIVE to make black males apologize for their sexism & misogynoir.Kendall, who pulls no punches when it comes to telling it like it T-I-IS said this. But the same women who didnt think enough of themselves to only give life, love, support and sacrifice to the black male who has EARNED it, is the same bw who now demand the white man hand her the world. We expect feats of strength, dismantling of systems, and for him replace the image of his own MOTHER with ours as some sort of downpayment on our love. We focus on LOOKS, HEIGHT, AGE and all that other mess that black people use to choose mates and dont even realize that if we want to WIN! Cuz I see a lot of Sistas who CLAIM to be open to IRR but are quietly SEETHING that they cannot get the BLACK man they TRULY want, and expect white men to REIMBURSE her for it through the meeting of ridiculous expectations to make up the difference. Black women don’t force black males to sit and watch documentaries on rape, molestation, FGM, child brides, breast ironing and all of the other Patriarchal madness that black men have a hand in with bw all around the world.For some this may be a condition that becomes consistent over time and become a normal action.When a shy person is around others you may see that they do what they can to stay away from the people that they do not know.But to expect white men to start eating off the Black Struggle Plate just to ‘prove’ their devotion to us is insane and disingenuous.