He does all sorts of things to woo her and win her over, but simultaneously, he (for whatever reason) does not want to be in an exclusive relationship.
So as soon as the woman declares that she really likes him, she assumes it means that they’re headed towards a relationship.
At first, I thought he was just trying to end things, but then from time to time, he’ll text me something really sweet, like about how much he wants to see me, or that he’s been thinking about me, so obviously, he’s still interested or why would he do that?
It can be helpful to look at the initial period of dating as it’s own phase with its own specific qualities.MORE: Exactly Why Men Withdraw From Relationships For example, in the beginning, both of you might feel a lot of excitement and also an undercurrent of fearful restlessness.MORE: Signs He Doesn’t Want to Be With You He might give you some excuse as to why he can’t get into a relationship, but the excuse isn’t the part that matters.As I’ve said time and time again: When a man says he doesn’t want a relationship with you (for any reason), believe him! It makes me sad to see, but there are a lot of relationships I see where the guy is insecure and wants to make sure the woman likes him.MORE: 5 Steps to Stop a Man From Withdrawing Men and women both do this, but sometimes it’s harder to see when we’re thinking about the person we’re with.
I’m not saying they’re genuinely interested in you too.
When a guy says things like, ‘I’ve never liked a girl so much after only a few dates’ or he texts you saying he misses you when you barely know each other, he’s not making some kind of grand, everlasting declaration that he’ll always feel this way.
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What I am saying is that in the beginning phase of the relationship, it’s common for one or both people to have some amount of insecurity and want to go out of their way to make sure the other person really likes them before they let their guard down.
So one of the ways they might see if you like them is to do and say anything they can think of that they think you would like. You would want the other person you’re with to feel secure with you, so that they can let their guard down and be their true day-to-day self (without all the added performances to make you like them).
He feels secure and he feels the current relationship dynamic is secure.