To give another your whole heart too early is both unsafe to you and unfair to them. (Be worried if people start giving you couple combo-names like “Brannifer” or “Joeronica.”) (4) Sexual boundaries promote independence, health, and clarity.
Timeliness is as important as integrity in a relationship (Prov. To respect timeliness in what you allow yourself to feel and how you express it does not devalue your emotions through suppression. Yet we often talk about sexual purity as putting our hearts in a cage only to be unlocked in on the wedding day.
It is certainly true that no passage of Scripture says — in so many words, at least — "thou shalt not kiss before marriage." Having said that, I submit that there is a strong argument to be made from Scripture that there is sexual relationship outside of marriage.
But a truly Christian conception of boundaries in dating will not only draw physical boundaries (as if dating was merely a relationship between two Christian bodies).
(1) Personal boundaries promote individual independence. They protect a person's agency, space, friend/family/God relationships, and academic/professional contexts as their own—that is, free from invasiveness of their romantic other. There are several ways to exercise emotional wisdom with feelings.
Rather, good timing honors the sanctity of romantic emotions and their rightful end (Song of Solomon 8:4). I fear what that view of sexuality would look like in marriage.
Romantic feeling mixed with relational health is God's desired context to make a dating couple a married one. To retain space for yourself spiritually—that is, individual relationships with God and the church that do not depend on your romantic other—protects your heart. Conversely, we seek to cultivate sexual purity that reflects the holistic love of Christ for his sake (Psalm ; Proverbs ; 1 Peter ).
In 1 Corinthians 7:3 and following, Paul says once we are married, our bodies literally belong to our spouse; he also instructs spouses to meet one another's sexual needs and to be together regularly so as to protect ourselves from falling into ungodly lust and extramarital sexual activity.
If you have any doubts about God's intention to give us sex as a wonderful, pleasurable gift, Song of Songs should put them to rest.Michael Lawrence and other able Boundless authors have written before about the wonderful gift of sex, so I won't belabor the point except to repeat that the Scripture passages on sex, taken together, make very clear that God instituted sex for purposes of procreation, pleasure, intimacy, holiness and — ultimately — for His glory.God instituted sex within marriage as part of His design of the family (Genesis ).We all know what we're talking about here, and these are not the things I mean to address in this column.The game changes when two people are romantically involved or "semi-involved" (a fascinating phrase I recently heard). Before you start throwing things at your computer, let's go to Scripture.Of course, you cannot maintain holistic boundaries without specific lists and rules.