Once you’ve picked something to try out, it’s time to talk about the details.Role-playing is great in that it can be as simple or as complex as you’d like it to be.Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex psychotherapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the specifics. Q: My boyfriend likes to joke about role-playing, but I think he actually wants to try it out.
There’s no need to get overly complex your first time!
Pick scenarios that you’re already familiar with, to give you an idea of what to say and how to act.
Most people are intrigued by the idea of role-playing, but worried about looking like an idiot.
Here are some foolproof steps for enjoying your first role-playing experience.
This will minimize embarrassment and will prevent you from wasting money if it turns out that you don’t particularly enjoy enacting the fantasy!
If either one of you has ideas about how you’d like this role-play to go, try to share as many details as you can.
In fact, you may find it less intimidating to ad-lib a simple scenario in the moment instead of planning everything out beforehand.
With any role-play, it’s important to discuss your limits.
I’m afraid of feeling awkward or laughing, or feeling like a cheesy porn star and ruining the moment for him.
I also don’t have any specific role-play scenarios in mind, so I’m not sure what to do.
For example, you’re probably pretty familiar with the events of a doctor’s appointment.