Instead, surround yourself with friends who love you, inside and outside of any relationship.Write down your thoughts and feelings in a journal. Lewandowski Jr., who focuses on the role of self in romantic relationships, writes that research has shown that a significant therapeutic benefit occurs when individuals write, focusing on the positive.
They can encourage you to see the relationship in a more balanced way, both the good and the bad.Their perspective also can help reduce your feelings of jealousy. Seeing your ex with someone else can feel like a physical blow to your self-esteem.Maura Banar has been a professional writer since 2001 and is a psychotherapist.Her work has appeared in "Imagination, Cognition and Personality" and "Dreaming: The Journal of the International Association for the Study of Dreams." Banar received her Bachelor of Arts in psychology from Buffalo State College and her Master of Arts in mental health counseling from Medaille College.Hello, I've been going through this for quite awhile.
About five months ago my ex and I broke up due to mistakes I made in the relationship.Since these can be the signs of an abusive dynamic, minimizing contact with a controlling ex may be the best option for both you and your new dating partner, according to the article "Domestic Violence and Abuse" from the nonprofit Help Guide.If you maintain a friendship with your ex, she may be concerned about your new choice of dating partners.This may be particularly true if you were the one to end the relationship.If your ex tries to stay in regular contact, has tried to reconcile with you of if you have broken up and gotten back together before, there may be a chance that he has been holding onto hope that you will get back together with him.Anna Green has been published in the "Journal of Counselor Education and Supervision" and has been featured regularly in "Counseling News and Notes," Keys Weekly newspapers, "Travel Host Magazine" and "Travel South." After earning degrees in political science and English, she attended law school, then earned her master's of science in mental health counseling.