Here’s how to recognize that your relationship is already over and it’s time to let it go.Communication is vital for a relationship’s success. It’s a fact baked into every relationship: all relationships come to an end until one doesn’t.
We have a tendency to mistake “talking” for communicating and strive to cover those moments of silence with verbal flack as though it were a way of chasing relationship difficulties away.
In practice though, it doesn’t matter if you can coexist in companionable silence or if you chatter away like a pair of extroverted cockatoos as long as you can express your needs clearly to one another.
After all, nobody’s a mind-reader and expecting your partner to just be able to divine your wants and needs is a one-way trip to frustration and disappointment.
However, there’s a difference between communicating and “filling the air with noise”.
Other times, they simply will perpetually hold the relationship hostage as a method of ensuring “good” behavior.
If you’re always looking for evidence of future transgressions or your past sins are continually brought up as a weapon against you, then it’s clear that the damage was far too great, no matter what anyone says.
want or need or open up about how you actually feel, then your relationship is functionally over.
It doesn’t matter if you feel like it’s something you’re not “allowed” to want or if you’re afraid that if you ask, the answer will be “no”.
But not every relationship ends with a loud and dramatic climax. After all, it can be hard to pull the trigger on that break up, even when you know it needs to happen.
However, there comes a point when everyone needs to realize that the patient is dead and there’s no amount of CPR, couple’s therapy, lingerie, or weekend getaways that can bring it back.
But there are the occasional flare-ups that are part of every relationship and then there are the relationships where those moments of quiet aren’t tranquility, it’s the calm before the storm.