Which means it's both ultimatum and bluff-calling time.
So with your couples therapist there to mediate, tell him your marriage is either open or closed.You're not interested in being his cuckold and he can't point to his trauma to force you into that role.But almost immediately, he began talking about how he wanted to hook up with others. I feel tremendous guilt for even thinking about splitting up, so I keep hoping we'll stumble on the thing that will work for us.I don't know what to say when he says I should be monogamous to him while he gets to hook up with others. Gay Marriage Having Crisis I've written about a few gay couples—and a few straight ones—where one half gets to hook up with others while the other half doesn't.You're a handsome couple—thanks for enclosing the lovely picture (sometimes it's nice to see the face of the person I'm responding to!
)—with a long history together, and here's hoping things work out.But on the off chance it would crush your wife to be told everything, just tell her about Ms. After a few tense years, we started couples therapy.During therapy, my husband revealed that he was never in favor of the openness.Be honest, ASSHOLE, just this once: Is the destruction of your wife a bug or is it a feature? Because cheating on this scale isn't about succumbing to temptation or reacting to neglect.It's about the annihilation of your partner—a (hopefully) subconscious desire to punish and destroy someone, anyone, fool enough to love you.Or maybe you're the wrong kind of sadist: the un-self-aware emotional sadist.