Not because he’s a Chinese man, or because our relationship is “unique” or different. @askdsk Yes, white women do get to hear negative comments about her choice to date Asian men.If I hear one more time about how they are short, have small penises, are controlling, beat their wives, ect. I do not mean to bash my own culture, but people from America or the West in general can be so rude and ignorant.
I’m not going to lie, it took my family a while to come around and accept the fact that I date Asian men, but now that they have come around they are eagerly awaiting the soon to come mixed children. They could not understand why I was not attracted to white men and most people who know I am attracted to Asian men do not understand it.
White men do not get nearly as many comments when they have a preference for Asian women because they are considered “exotic beauties”.
On occasion, it even creeps into the news, like this story.
For now, though, I’m just happy to have John, my Chinese husband, in my life.
Rarely have they been depicted with traditionally masculine traits.
With a few exceptions, Asian men on screen have been small, sneaky and threatening — or spineless, emasculated wimps, or incompetents who may well be technically proficient in martial arts, but impotent when faced with white man’s superior strength or firepower. Even today, Asian American men complain that action heroes such as Chow Yun Fat and Jackie Chan rarely get the girl.Still, despite the odds, sterotypes and other barriers, it does happen that Chinese men and foreign women get together.It happened for me — and a growing number of other women, including bloggers such as the Local Dialect, The Downtown Diner, and Wo Ai Ni.Generally, the pressure to split up comes from the family since, after all, in China, marriage is a family affair.There was one Chinese boyfriend who told me, flat out, that his parents would never accept me.I don’t doubt he loved me in the beginning — but once his family knew, I suspect they made it clear that there was no future in what we had.