Attraction and christian dating

However, don’t make judgments solely based off a person’s exterior.

I know there are more important things in a relationship, but shouldn’t there be some spark?’ I’m surprised how many people – both women and men – write to me because they’re worried that they ‘ought’ to date someone they’re not attracted to, and to insist on attraction would be superficial and un Godly.While physical attraction isn’t everything, it is still an important factor when it comes to relationship workability and if it’s not there for you, trouble will ensue.Physical, along with sexual attraction rarely grows over time.“Pheromones, the smells that fly below the conscious radar, alert us to compatible mates and make us feel lustful, without quite knowing why,” Dr. These factors play a major role when it comes to reproduction.

“We are capable of discerning 10,000 different scents consciously.

For men, it is rare for this to happen, and for women, there is often a connection with her feelings about her man.

But there has to be a foundation of attraction from which those feelings grow.

If you’re not physically attracted to the person you’re with, you’ll never be happy and if you’re telling yourself you will, you’re in denial.

There is nothing wrong with not being physically attracted to someone. You’re human and shouldn’t have to talk yourself into being with someone.

Though subtle, these factors can play a powerful role in our assessment of attraction. Laura Berman says attraction results from the unique information gathered by all of our senses. John Money, a psychologist who specialized in research into sexual identity, biology and gender known as “love maps”.