Surely marriage is a much bigger commitment than buying a house, but I’m hoping that our experience will prove insightful…so here we go!
For the past year, long before we started looking for a house, we started keeping a list of non-negotiables.
We learned our financial limits and shortcomings very quickly as the bankers ran the numbers… When you’re dating and considering marriage, a good introspective look will only help prepare you. Each person assisting us (and thank God they were all honest, hard working people! They poked and prodded at the home and paperwork with a common goal in mind: getting us into a solid home within our means.This guarded us from getting fixated on the external qualities of the home whilst missing bigger underlying problems.Your marriage must have a strong foundation, and the only strong foundation is Christ. If I had loved her only for her external qualities like attractiveness, hair color, physique, and so on, my “love” would have faded as soon as she changed.He is our only true standard of love and only he provides guidance for loving and being loved when one side of the relationship is unloveable. Folks who buy into that ideology don’t understand what love is. In fact, as we grow older I find that I love however Selena changes (think: pregnancy), because she’s still .Though these tips are written specifically with the ladies in mind, they can easily apply to the menfolk as well. Now, without further adieu, here's a list of what you'll need to discover quickly if he or she is an online loon or someone who'll make you swoon.
Just add a dash of common sense with a pinch of your own instinct, and you'll be well on your way to finding that special someone who may just make you say, "I do." 1) Create a great online dating profile that showcases you.
Don’t over-emphasize surface qualities in your significant other. But the deeper qualities – faith, personality, sense of humor, etc – will endure for a lifetime. When you date , knowing it’s temporary, you’re basically saying to each other, “I’m just using you for my pleasure now, and as soon as that stops, we’re done.” That’s not love. If you do date or are dating, let it be with their soul in mind and marriage in view.
Selena and I dated for 4 years before getting married, but the day I asked her out I told her that I wouldn’t be dating her if I didn’t think I could marry her some day. And may you seek out all understanding and wisdom through reading God’s word and seeking counsel on how to pursue them.
Our list included a garage (we’ve never had one), location (close to family/friends, strong community), budget/price, and many other things. When it came time to start searching, we knew what we were looking for, so eliminating options was very straightforward.
While dating, you must both understand the non-negotiables in your relationship and agree on them.
They don’t see that love is an action and a choice long before it includes feelings of romance or attraction. She is not a body with a soul, but a soul with a body.